When a couple breaks up, even if for a short time, both parties to the breakup can suffer profound, long-lasting effects. The divorce process is emotional, challenging, and painful. Usually, the deterioration of the marriage partnership occurs long before the actual divorce proceedings begin, and the emotional scars linger long after the decree is signed. Separation/divorce counseling can help you mitigate the fallout and emerge stronger.
Unfortunately, there is no formula to make divorce simple or painless. This makes the breakup so difficult and overwhelming. Professional support can help.
Divorce impacts all parts of your life
Divorce is one of the most stressful life events one can endure. It is so stressful that it affects many aspects of life. Your self-esteem, living conditions, finances, relationships with your children, family relationships, and social support networks are all impacted. You are likely to experience grief, which is complex and challenging.
Getting support during and after divorce
During this life-changing process, individuals often seek the support of a professional therapist. I am here to guide you through this journey and help you regain hope, confidence, and dignity.
As your therapist, my goal is to help you manage your emotions throughout the process so you can:
- Make thoughtful decisions void of anger and resentment.
- Learn coping skills using CBT to continue daily living.
- Alleviate a sense of failure.
- Deal with the stigma of divorce.
- Provide resources to guide you through the financial and legal steps.
You can expect support through this entire process and starting your new life.
Grief affects your functioning during divorce
When a separation or divorce occurs, usually one party grieves more or earlier than the other. The one who grieves early or grieves more intensely is set at a distinct disadvantage.
Grief can cloud our judgment, make our minds foggy and less alert than usual. This, at a time when you must deal with lawyers, courts, and paperwork. If there are kids involved, there may be school changes and other issues related to their needs that demand your attention.
In therapy, I will help you navigate the five stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. Different people experience these stages in different sequences and different levels of intensity.
Understanding your needs
Throughout the process, I attempt to help my clients acknowledge and recognize their needs and identify ways to get their needs met. Ideally, clients come to understand the challenges of their relationships and hopefully can use this information to create more lasting bonds in the future.
Knowing your needs provides insight into your relationships (past, present, and future). Better awareness of your needs fosters an understanding of your emotions, allowing your to better evaluate your options.
Sometimes clients re-evaluate their situation and find they can fix the problem and restore the relationship. In some cases, the separated couple decides to reconcile. If that happens, I am happy to transition to couples counseling.
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